Is He or She The Right One For Me?

As a Christian, no matter what is going on in your life you always put God first and trust in Him to lead you to your next destination in life.  However, when Christian singles date they must also take into consideration the faith of the person in which they are interested in as well.  It is not uncommon to occasionally assess the other person’s behavior and wonder if their Faith matches your own. 

There is no doubt that Christians can wander when their Faith is tested.  After all, we are all born sinners and must ask forgiveness of our Father when we are not as strong as we want to be when tempted.  And it is certainly true that the strong faith of our companions and significant others can help right us in our path when we have been tempted away.  However, when it becomes apparent that the person you are dating has put other worldly priorities before the Lord, a Christian single should take the time to ask themselves if this person is the best choice for them to rely on when their own life becomes turbulent.

Does this person put God above their worldly priorities?

This may not be an easy question to answer and there is little doubt that a majority of the time your partner will want to serve the Lord above all else.  However, it is in the times of our most troubling temptation that a Christian’s Faith is most valuable to him or her. 

Does this person have an even keel?

Even in rough waters that test it, a boat that has a solid frame will weather harsh storms and come out on the other side in calm seas.  How does your partner react to rough seas in his or her life?  Do they lash out, drink alcohol, or engage in other activities that are clearly not in God’s plan for their life?  Or do they ask Him for courage, talk their problems through, and maintain their strong frame until the storm subsides?

Are you in your relationship alone?

It is a common view among Christian relationship and spiritual guidance experts that most relationships have one person that continuously gives at least a tiny bit more to the bond between them than the other.  To a certain point, this behavior is quite normal and even healthy – particularly when this role is known to switch back and forth between the two people in the relationship.  However, if you have found that you are the one that is constantly maintaining while your partner appears apathetic, you may want to question how much of yourself you should continue to invest.

Are you best friends?

The best Christian relationships always sprout from the best of friends.  It is extremely important to avoid rushing into a relationship with someone before both of you have formed a bond and trust that comes along with being friends first.  Romantic relationships can go through cooler periods at times.  It is at these times that the fabric that keeps the two of you together is the friendship that forms the concrete base of your relationship.